Matthew and I went to school together, starting from middle school all the way through high school. We always knew of each other but we never really connected until sophomore year of high school. When we did connect, it was pretty instant because we had very similar taste in music, humor, and similar personalities.
He was taking Spanish in high school and he knew I spoke Spanish, so he regularly would ask me for help on how to say certain things and he would practice with me. Beginning our junior year we became a lot closer and we would have lunch together almost everyday. Then by our senior year, we were really great friends, best friends really. We took a senior trip together, we went to our senior party together, we even did college tour field trips together. Then the summer after graduation, we kind of lost touch and went our separate ways.
We never really saw each other as more than friends. We talk about it now and we both admit that we thought the other was cute, but nothing more than that. At the time, we were both in separate long term relationships and the thought of us getting together never occurred. I will say, I always felt at ease with him, almost like at home… It’s like a part of me knew that he was the one, but never realized. He always accepted me, for me and I always appreciated that about Matthew.
Three years later, I was separating from my ex (a story for another day), and Matthew randomly popped up on my facebook messenger. We always talked on and off over those three years giving each other brief updates about our lives, but never really saw each other. He came into my life at such an odd time but also a perfect time. I know God put him there and I will forever be grateful for it. It was the day before his birthday and we just chatted on messenger for hours. I even waited for it to turn midnight so I could wish him happy birthday and be the first to do it. But my other best friend beat me to it (thanks Alaina).
We met up that weekend and hung out. He had changed a lot. I had not seen him in years and he looked so different. He was taller, a bit skinnier, and had long hair. But man, his eyes!!! I didn’t remember his eyes being that blue! Pretty much an instant crush. I was so scared to ruin our friendship that I dared not act on it.
The night we hung out, I drove him home and we sat in the car talking until 1 AM then went into his house until 4 AM! My mom almost killed me when I got home. We just couldn’t help it, we had so much to catch up on. This routine continued for several days. Sometimes, we wouldn’t even talk, we would just listen to music or play video games. We just clicked and synchronized so well. He made it so easy for me to be me again.
One day, we were having a party and we were drinking. I guess the alcohol served him as liquid courage because that’s when he kissed me. That was on June 25, 2013. We’ve been together ever since, 6 years and counting. He proposed after a Wonder Years concert (our favorite band) in November 2016. We started planning for a wedding but decided it wasn’t for us, so we eloped to Jamaica on June 25, 2017. Best decision ever! We do not regret it in the slightest. By December of that year, we found out we were pregnant with Judy-bear. If you want to know more about that story, check out this post.
Our lives have never been the same but never better. We love our lives and our family. Matthew, to me, is not just my husband. He is my best friend, my partner in crime, my confidant, my inspiration, the love of my life, my son’s father, he is EVERYTHING to me. My love grows for him every single day. He accepts me for me and loves me when I am right and when I am wrong. He encourages me to fulfill my dreams and aspirations. I find comfort and strength in him. I will forever be grateful for him.